Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal: A Christian Woman’s Healing Journey
Some trauma is loud and obvious. Other trauma looks like silence, confusion, and betrayal from someone you never expected it from.
That was me.
I trusted them. I let them in. I believed their words and built my life around the idea that I was safe with them. And then one day, it all came crashing down.
The lies.
The manipulation.
The quiet moments when they watched me break, and didn’t care enough to stop it.
Betrayal trauma hits differently. It doesn’t just break your heart. It makes you question your worth, your judgment, and your ability to ever feel safe again.
For a long time, I was stuck in that space. I replayed the conversations. I doubted every decision. I pulled away from the people who truly cared. I built walls and told myself it was wisdom, but really, it was fear.
And yet, God never left me there.
How I Reclaimed My Power After Betrayal
It didn’t happen overnight. But here’s what I did, step by step, moment by moment, to take my power back:
1. I Stopped Minimizing What Happened
I had to stop making excuses for their behavior.
Stop saying “It wasn’t that bad” or “Maybe I overreacted.”
No—what happened was wrong. Period.
You cannot heal from a wound you keep pretending isn’t real.
Naming the betrayal out loud was the beginning of my breakthrough.
2. I Let God Rebuild My Confidence
Betrayal shatters your sense of self. I found myself second-guessing everything, even my relationship with God.
But slowly, I let scripture replace the lies:
“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” (Song of Solomon 4:7)
“I have loved you with an everlasting love.” (Jeremiah 31:3)
“I will restore to you the years the locusts have eaten.” (Joel 2:25)
God’s voice became louder than theirs. And that’s when healing started.
3. I Chose to Trust Again—With Boundaries
One of the hardest things was learning to trust again. But trust isn’t just about others, it starts with trusting yourself.
I set boundaries. I honored my intuition. And I gave myself permission to walk away from anything that cost me my peace.
That wasn’t weakness. That was power.
4. I Found Purpose in My Pain
God doesn’t waste trauma. He uses it.
Every woman I coach has felt some version of what I felt, betrayed, dismissed, invisible. And when I sit across from them and say, “I see you. I get it. You're not crazy,” something shifts in them.
My healing became their permission slip. And that gave the pain purpose.
You Can Take Your Power Back Too
If betrayal left you silenced or stuck, I want you to know this:
You are not what they did to you
You are still worthy of love, trust, and peace
You can heal and rise stronger than before
Your power isn’t gone. It’s just buried under the hurt. Let’s uncover it, together.
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I coach women through faith-based healing after trauma, betrayal, and breakdown.
If you’re ready to take your power back, book your Curiosity Call today at www.coachherlife.com.
